Jason Alexander Shares Poignant Key to Success in His 43-Year Marriage

Jason Alexander knows a thing or two about marriage.

The “Seinfeld” star, 65, who has been married to Daena Title since he was 22, says there are a few factors that contribute to a successful union.

“A piece of it is dumb luck. She walked in the door. I went, ‘Oh my God.’ She went, ‘Eh,’” he recently joked while appearing in an interview with social media star William Rossy of Sprouht.

“The opportunity to meet someone that kind of really does line up spiritually with you, it’s dumb luck,” he continued.

Alexander, of course, gained fame playing George Costanza on “Seinfeld,” a character who constantly had problems with women he dated. In real life, the eight-time Emmy nominee said he and his wife have changed, while noting they were always “headed in the same direction.”

“Our values didn’t change. Our interests didn’t change. We didn’t suddenly become different kinds of people because of the way life had worked or not worked for us,” he said. “We took the work of it seriously. When we had trouble, we went to therapy or she went on her own. I went on (my) own. We went together. We tried to figure it out.”

Alexander then cited something he read for the first time in the play “A Raisin in the Sun” when he was 12 years old.

“When do you think is the time to love someone the most? When they’ve done good and made things easy for everybody?” he said. “It’s when they’re at their lowest and they can’t believe in themselves anymore because the world’s whipped them so.”

Jason Alexander and his wife, Daena Title, at "The Paley Honors: A Special Tribute to Television's Comedy Legends" in Beverly Hills, California, in 2019. (David Livingston / Getty Images)

Alexander also said his wife knows the potential he has, even when he may not reach it.

“What I say about my wife is on my worst day, when I am the worst version of myself that I can be, she is able to know who I am on my best day. And she beckons me back,” he said, echoing a comment he made during an appearance on TODAY back in March. “And that’s extraordinary.”

He said there’s a satisfaction in being with someone he knows so well for so long.

“It is the most comforting thing in the world that I have taken this journey with someone who’s known me almost the whole way. There’s just a joy in it,” he said.

As for how people struggle to maintain relationships. Alexander says it’s important not to give up.

Jason Alexander says he and wife Daena E. Title have both worked hard at their marriage over the years. (Bruce Glikas)

“If you want it to work, you can make it work,” he said. “And I know so many guys — guys in particular -- who walk away thinking, ‘It’s the problem.’ And then they go out and start a new relationship and they go, ‘I have the same problem.’ ... If the problem is within you, it’s going to go wherever you go.”

He was then asked to define love.

“In a cup that deep,” he said, motioning a glass, “it’s three-quarters filled with selflessness. It is literally elevating someone else’s concerns, needs, passions, existence to being a little more important than your own. That’s all it is.”